I feel like my girlfriend is too controlling?

She is a bartender and I quit my job so I could be a stay at home dad for our two boys. I take care of everything at home and I am very effectionate to her. Mages, breakfast in bed I do the laundry and constantly tell her shes great. We hav one car and its in her name. I cant go anywhere unless she wants me to. I cant spend any money on anything I want unless she wants to too. She constantly puts me down and i feel like she doesnt show me any affection even though she always wants me to snuggle with her thats as far as it ever goes anymore. like once a month and she sleeps all day. she doesnt spend time with her kids and she complains about everything. she stays up til 9 am when she gets home at 5 on the computer but she wont go to bed and get sleep so she can get up abd spend time with us...what should I do